Headless Questions!!

Will you marry me please?

I was wondering that in life why we are just surrounded by so many questions and most of which remains painfully unanswered. We are constantly questioned by others and sometime we question our self as well. Sad and at times very irritating and sometime feel good that we posed the question which reveals a different dimension. When we look for a simple answer to a question, why is that by our action we just make it complicated?

We look at four scenarios and the last scenario I will let you to complete:

Scenario 1: @Workplace

At work place we are asked to constantly define what is important for us and after defining it, state how are we going about what we had defined as important to us. We are then measured on how and what we have been able to achieved against what we defined important in our statements. It becomes a monotonous and tiring cycle getting your mind constantly focused to the questions. The pressure and the stress to have an answer ready for the questions takes an invariably toll on the body.

Scenario 2: @Personal front

At personal front we are haunted and interrogated by the deadly “why” questions virus. Why are you late? Why do you have to go there? Why have you not done your home work? Why don’t you love me the way you use to love me before? (You are so screwed). If we seek an answer for a question, you will be snapped by a counter why question. Ok here is a test, try this out, politely ask your best friend of opposite sex, say a female in this case a personal question: “Do you have a boy friend?” Bang a counter question comes – “why?” “Why do you ask?”

Why - “why?” ??? is what I want to ask?

One can say yes or no or give it a pass but - No we will not get a straight answer! We will make it complicated by asking too many questions loosing the value of an honest and yet simple question. I know people might say at times there are hidden ulterior motive, I am sure you are smart enough to ignore. In return too many questions makes a relationship sour and folks stray away by wrongly interpreting the response. All that we are left with is set of purposeless questions.

Scenario 3: @home

Let us look at another scenario and this is hilarious, these questions are like as if they are fired endlessly from an automated rifle – at times funny and at times can be very annoying. Say you have a kid at home. The day the kid, understands the meaning and use of the why question – you had it. You have let loose the devil. For everything he will have a why question and if you are able to answer it then it will be topped up with another why question and another one. Dad! Why do we need to eat spinach? Coz it will make you strong man like Popeye the sailor man. Dad! Why do we need to be strong? I can go on and we will have a full list. We will be out of breath answering but he will still have all the energy to pound you with more. What do you think of these questions, if you are in the mood you will be happy respond to it all but if you are not in mood even a single question can be so annoying.

Scenario 4: @government

Well this needs no explanation and enough have been written in recent times. I leave to your best creative mind however will let you think on one question. Why do we have scam?

So what is the point in all this, well I find this questioning concept detestable. Why can’t we keep our life simple? Do we complicate our work life and interpersonal relationship by questioning the very question we are posed with? They say it brings in clarity in our thoughts. They also say it helps to find the real motive behind it. Well it brings suspicion along with it. I can go on what all they say.

We are quick to question and often take more time to give an answer.

Did Thomas Edison have his answer through questioning himself in quest of finding light? A small twist to his famous statement "Questioning is 1 percent inspiration, answering is 99 percent perspiration".

Question as seeker of knowledge and not a giver of judgment - Amit Chatterjee

I have to honestly admit that my best moment in life happened when I posed a question to an acquaintance of mine who responded to me with a counter “why” question. All I had to do is to respond back with a challenging response to which there was no answer. Life had a different meaning there after.

Keep it simple silly!

Space

Space "the final frontier". Well! that was not what I wanted to write this post about. So what if life was created from some big bang theory.

Let us explore and pounder on some of the views which at times lands into our mail box or comes to us as forward sms. This is something I got latest.

NINE WORDS WOMEN USE

(1)   Fine :   This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.

(2)   Five Minutes :   If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.

(3)   Nothing :   This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with "nothing" usually end in "fine".

(4)   Go Ahead :   This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It!

(5)   Loud Sigh :   This is actually a word, but is a nonverbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about "nothing". (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)

(6)   That's Okay! :   This is one of the most dangerous statements a woman can make to a man. That's okay! means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.

(7)   Thanks :   A woman is thanking you, do not question, or faint. Just say you're welcome. (I want to add in a clause here - This is true, unless she says 'Thanks a lot' - that is PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say 'you're welcome'. That will bring on a 'whatever').

(8)   Whatever :   Is a woman's way of saying   *@%*#   YOU!

(9)   Don't worry about it, I got it :   Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking 'What's wrong?' For the woman's response refer to # 3.

My close female friend said to me once, you guys just like making funny jokes on female. Well, to her my response is NO. What will us men folks do without you in our life? All that we say or do there is always a woman. Just imagine 90% of songs are made on woman. 

The argument lies what prompts us to say such comments and I am sure given the opportunity there will be plenty in response from the opposite sex. Some of the reason of such impromptu is more to do with my topic “space” to each other.

Wonder why do we need such a thing called space or sometime we get to hear “give me my space for a change will you?”

Demand for space or giving space to someone who is integral part of one owns life is so important especially in today’s social context. I recall a statement that:  imagine life as a game in which you are juggling five balls in the air - Work, family, health, friends and spirit. You will soon realize that work is a rubber ball, it will bounce back but the other four balls are made of glass. You drop one of these it’s gonna be irrevocable and simultaneously you have to ensure there is reasonable space in between the balls so that they don’t collide with each other.  

Space is not just between two couple in a relationship but the whole universe we live in. I am not here to teach anyone how to give space or what is space all about but the word space could become a metaphor applicable to whole host of environment under whose influence we all are.

Space is endless, its huge, does it reflects trust, faith, feeling, emotion, pain, agony? .. NO. It only reflects the free spirit and helps it to connect with the inner soul - the final frontier.

Prabhujee dayaa karo

This is a line taken from a beautiful prayer by Ravi Shanker played invariably every morning at our home.  The lines are so beautiful ..

Prabhujee dayaa karo
Maname aana baso.
Tuma bina laage soonaa
Khaali ghatame prema bharo.
Tantra mantra poojaa nahi jaanu
Mai to kevala tumako hi maanu.
Sare jaga me dhundaa tumako
Aba to aakara baahan dharo

World seems to be a crazy place to live-in and we are like crazy people who are constantly trying to find one single thing - our peace of mind. Prabhujee dayaa karo.

What we want and what we have and what we finally get – the gap seems too wide to bear it all. Prabhujee dayaa karo.

The pain, the helplessness, the sorrow never seem to be go away and no one to help but to cry alone. Prabhujee dayaa karo.

We ask just one question to our self every morning – why this has to happen and why me? Prabhujee dayaa karo.

Why am I the only one fighting it out? I too have the full right to be happy. Prabhujee dayaa karo.

Why can’t we forget what we do not wish to remember and seems to coming back to us. Prabhujee dayaa karo.

Every moment seems to be an endless journey battling a lonely dark life between desires and lost bewildered mind. Prabhujee dayaa karo.

Please bring an end to this. Prabhujee dayaa karo.

Probably our prayers are the only form of expressions of our anxiety.  Empty emotions and dry tears rolling down every day and yet we suffer inside accepting what our fates has to offer in return. We are trying so hard to walk the fine line balancing our life daily, accepting the situation as they throw up and living a life surrounded by what society demands and not what you want. Paradox of life.

Yet no one asks you – tell me what I can do for you - to see the everlasting sparkle in your eyes and retain the joyous smile on your face.

The life one leads is always of a loner, the day you are born till you die it’s your own lonely battle which you have to fight within. I don’t wanna lose the reason to live a life. I wanna live a life.  

Prabhujee dayaa karo

Just incase you would like to listen to the prayer thought of adding it:

random thoughts

Don't Give Up On Someone That U Can't Go A Day Without Thinking About Them !!

Life is beautiful yet we make it hard

I woke up this morning hearing a beautiful song by Kishore da posted by a friend of mine.


Jeevan Se Bhari Teri Aankhen
Majboor Karen Jeene Ke Liye
Saagar Bhi Taraste Rehte Hain
Tere Hoth Ka Ras Peene Ke Liye


I don’t know, where do I take this feeling after hearing this number yet so heartwarming. Life brings us to such crossroads at times when you don't know where do you pour your emotion on the facebook or start writing a blog. Music will always be a binding emotional factor for remembrance and for day dreamers like me. Lately I have been thinking what is the point expressing what you see or what you feel like on facebook getting likes and few comments from well wishers like you, I would rather start writing my own blog.

So here is my first start, may be a small one but many such posting to come. This is my blog and it's my way so no space for hard feelings.


I will post what I feel like, I will upload what I like and will talk about things which I like the most sometimes funny, sometmies serious and sometimes business not usual.


So here is the song I started my blog today to end my first posting. Enjoy!!